29/03/05
After a few days of thinking about it I thought about telling my Best friend Bookworm. We’d been friends since we were seventeen and told each other everything. I had already spoken to the boyf about it and he was ok about me talking to her if it meant I felt better about things.
My hhands shook as I dialled the number and had to try two times before I called the right number.
I held my breath as the phone rang.
Why was I feeling so nervous? She was my best friend! She wouldn’t think I was a freak? Would She?
She finally answered just as I was about to hang up.
“HI!” she said in her happy cheery way. Which for the first time in a week put a smile on my face.
I took a deep breath and told her. About the Doctor and what she said and that maybe I’d never have sex…well not for a long time anyway.
There was a silence and she asked me what it was and whether I could take any medication for it.
I replied no and it didn’t know enough about it yet to find the right treatment. I told her that we did know that doing pelvic floor exercises was meant to help.
She laughed and said that wasn’t so hard and at least I’d have a tight pussy at the end of all this.
A tight pussy? At the end of all this?
Did she not realise? Having a so called tight pussy was the fucking problem? Had she not been listening? Did she not get how serious this was? Did she not understand that my world had ended, that I was abnormal, a freak? I needed her to tell me that it was gona be ok, that she would help me, that we’d find away. I wanted her to ask me how I was feeling whether I was ok? Instead she made a comment about having a tight pussy. Was this my Best friend? My Sista? Was this the same girl I’d cried with, laughed with, had the worst and best times with?
I laughed along with her at the time, biting back tears.
She said that she’d ask her gf to look at some of her medical books to see if she could find out anymore information.
I thanked her and she changed the subject to what she’d been doing the weekend before.
I talked to her for another five minutes or so trying desperately to not cry before hanging up.
The boyf asked me how it went and I lied telling him it was fine.
I excused myself by saying I needed the loo and locked myself in my tiny bathroom.
I sat down on the closed toilet lid tears streaming down my face.
I was having to take deap breaths and holding them so the boyf didn’t hear me.
At that point in time I just wanted to lie down on the floor and cry, cry and cry until I couldn’t cry anymore. I wanted to shout and scream…I wanted to throw myself at a wall over and over again until this terrible pain, and anger and disgust at my own body disappeared until there was no more, until I couldn’t feel anything anymore.
Eventually I stopped crying and flushed the loo so the boyf wouldn’t realise what I had been doing. I then washed my face and came out of the bathroom.
The decision had been made for me…I was going to have to face this on my own.